Good evening ladies and happy Sunday! Church was so awesome for me today, I’m still on a high and its 11:30 pm! I’m prepooing at the moment with EVCO + hemp seed oil. All evening I’ve put off doing my hair simply because it is the wash before my relaxer touch up which calls for my pre-relaxer routine: Clarify, ApHogee 2 step treatment, moisturizing deep condition with Bee Mine Bee-U-ti-FuL conditioner, and roux porosity control. Whew! I know I’m going to be angry at myself in the morning for waiting so long to start my hair. My relaxer preparation is almost as tedious as my actual relaxer day, but fortifying my hair with protein prior to touching up is an absolute MUST and correcting my porosity gives me the best results. I’ve explained my relaxing prep and process in detail in the L4L Healthy Hair Handbook, but someone requested I show my touch up process so I will be expounding on my relaxing details soon.
Honestly this stretch was by far the easiest I’ve ever had – I even considered extending it to 13 or 14 weeks but decided against it for a few reasons. First off, remember my discussion about prevention versus reaction? Well, I don’t want to wait until I have a horrible wash and detangling session before I decide to relax. I don’t need to wait until I see excessive shedding or breaking to say “It’s time to touch up.” The only reason I would continue to stretch is if I were considering transitioning. Secondly, touching up next week will place me at 10-12 weeks post when I am home for Christmas, perfect for visiting my home stylist for a salon touch up and trim (I only trust her with trimming my hair). Thirdly, my thick new growth against my relaxed length always makes me feel like my ends are thinning. I know in my head that is the reason, but it still makes me hyper paranoid! The third reason isn’t actually a reason for me to touch up, but I do love having a consistent texture from root to tip, I must say, plus I’m due for a self-dusting.
You ladies have given me several blog awards – most of which I have received in the past and answered but do not appreciate you awarding them to me any less! These last few weeks I’ve been swamped with the blog updates, interviews, and of course my non-blog life so I haven’t had the chance to officially accept the awards and officially accept them with a “true-time” post. I apologize! Anyway, as I said I’ve received them previously so I won’t be following the official rules – but I can give you a seven random facts about myself which is the basic premise of them all (which is always fun):
- I cannot stand when people bite their nails and it makes that loud “biting” sound. It has the same effect on me that nails on a blackboard has for other people. *Cringe!*
- I’m a super emotional person. It took me some years of various folks pointing this out to me, because I am so outspoken and opinionated that I couldn’t reconcile the two parts of my personality but think of Wendy Williams. You know how she’s so in-your-face but cries at the drop of a dime? That’s so me! I’ve been known to tear up at a sappy commercial, but I also get intensely angry over things that probably shouldn’t evoke such strong emotions!
- The only other country I’ve ever visited thus far is Mexico but I have every intention of travelling a lot the entire decade of my thirties!
- I have sensitive teeth and prefer most drinks at room temperature, including water.
- My brother’s hair is prettier than mine. He has the most perfect 4a coils in the world…when he was wearing it twisted I was insanely jealous!
- Every once in a while a slightly ghetto side of myself surfaces. I have no idea where it comes from because my family is kind’ve Huxtable-ish, but if someone disrespects any member of my family I immediately want to grease up my face with vaseline and go allllll the way in, fists first. Then I remember that I could catch a charge and literally ruin my life behind a meaningless fight and force myself to chill out. *flashback to high school days*
- I don’t believe in giving kids racially ambiguous names on purpose. Like when people say I’m gonna name him/her so-and-so, that way “they” won’t be able to tell their race (aka that they are Black) on a job application. My stance is, “they” will never change if we constantly conform and don’t force them to stop discriminating. If we can have a president named Barack Obama, why are we naming our kids Betty-Sue to try to “trick” them into hiring us? We should continue to allow our merits to speak for themselves and name our kids whatever the heck we want! Not that I am an advocate for ghetto-fied names with all consonants, a hyphen, accent, and three capitol letters – but what’s wrong with folks knowing EBONY is a black woman?
Well, I hope you enjoyed my lil rambling late night post…off to shampoo my hair!