You want to go natural but he opposes…this was the story of my life about four years ago when I decided that I wanted to transition from relaxed to natural. The hubs is not a big fan a change and I will admit that I can be a bit random and hasty in my decision making at times. So who could blame him right? Some may say “It’s your hair so you can do what you want” and “if he doesn’t like it, oh well!” But for me, I’m all about keeping a happy home even though it is my hair. So needless to say I had some work to do to get the hubs on board. So what do you do when you want to go natural but he opposes…
Start a conversation – If you want to go natural but he opposes then he has a reason…find out why. My hubs had a few (1) he didn’t like change…my hair was straight when he met me was always his response and (2) he was afraid that my hair would look un-kept, everyone he ever recalled with natural hair looked a mess. So after finding out why the hubs wasn’t for me going natural I was better able to defend my decision and work towards getting him on board.
Have movie night – Most of us are familiar with the movie “Good Hair” right? If you want to go natural then this movie is for you and it is the perfect time for you and your man to watch it together. When I decided that I was going to transition I had the hubs rent it immediately. We had a chance to have some “QT”, a few laughs and learned a few things too.
Show him other natural beauties – You want to go natural then show him what you are talking about, like my hubs he may think all natural hair is “un-kept”. Now don’t walk up to random women and say “look babe isn’t her hair beautiful.” That may be a bit awkward for her and for your guy…lol. Instead, if you’re flipping through a magazine or looking at commercial and you see a fly natural be sure to point her out. Early on I was always trying to get the hubs to watch YouTube videos with me so he could see what I was working towards. And now that I have Instagram I’m constantly flashing pictures in his face…lol
Talking about natural hair, watching movies and sharing pictures are a great start to getting your man on board with you when you decide to go natural. But of course the key is to keep him involved and included along the way. Even after three plus years including transitioning, failed styles and complete meltdowns from bad hair days I still ask the hubs if he likes my hair. I’ve learned that he prefers more tamed styles over the “big hair don’t care” looks that I love…which is cool, comprise is a big part of marriage, lol. And don’t fret if your guy isn’t totally game for the whole “natural thing” in the beginning, if he really cares for you then he will come around…trust me, the hubs did.
If you want to go natural don’t let him be a deterrent!
Naturalistas, how were you able to get your significant other on board if he initially opposed to the idea?