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Booty Call Hair Survival Kit!

My mama occasionally peeks on L4L, not for hair information per se, but just to feel connected to me.  I share things here that I don’t always with her, mainly due to lack of interest, so at times she just wants to read what I’m sharing with the world.  I hope this is one post that completely passes her by.  If not – “Hi Mom! This post is purely from an informative, absolutely NOT personal viewpoint! Let’s not fight about it later.”

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Onto the subject at hand.  I had a hilariously funny conversation with one of my good friends.  She spent the night with her new boo – having driven to his house directly from a party with friends.  So in other words, no time to pack an overnight bag and certainly no scarf or bonnet!  The next morning we were chatting on our way to work and she said “Oh…my hair.  It’s a frizzy mess. I’m going to have to start keeping at least some moisturizer in my purse!” I cracked up laughing and said as I often do to my friends: you just inspired a blog post!

So, when we are in the stage of dating when we have sleepovers with our boo, but don’t have a drawer with duplicates of all our hair accessories at their place, what to do?  Most women are not even close to being comfortable enough to wear a bonnet or scarf.  Especially not for activities.  (Hi again Mom. This is not me.  I never do this.  Ever.)  But if you are going hot and heavy, enjoying every opportunity you can to spend in the lovely fairy tale phase of a new relationship – chances are you will have this problem more often than not.  Should you just let go and possibly have a hair setback trying to be free, fun and cute?

Nawwwwp.  Not this sistah.  I always wear a scarf from day one, for which my friends laugh at me mercilessly.  Then again, they also always ask me for hair advice too, so whatevs!  But, if you are one of those women who fakes the funk with your boo and keeps your hair loose and flowing as if you aren’t concerned with breakage here are a few tips so you don’t have to allow your facade to slip until YOU are ready to transform into Aunt Jemima.  Ready?  Here it goes…

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Butter Based Moisturizer:  Creamy natural ingredient, butter based moisturizers do double duty.  They act as both moisturizer and sealant without being too oily.  After all…nobody wants to leave grease stains on someone else’s linen!  They are also a bit heavier than traditional spritzes or creams so they add extra protection to your strands.  Two of my favorites are Jane Carter Nourish & Shine and Bee Mine Hair & Scalp Moisturizer.  Both are great moisturizers and smell divine…perfect for a night with your guy.  Purchase a travel sized container or transfer it into a clean, tiny jar so you’ll always have it handy!

Silk Pillow Cases: Okay, maybe you don’t feel comfortable wearing a scarf or bonnet just yet, but in this case, a silk (or even satin) pillowcase will be your BEST friend!  One of my friends refused to wear a bonnet or scarf after getting married, but constantly complained about split ends.  I advised her to buy a few satin pillowcases and she came back to me months later gushing over how much of a difference it made in her hair.  To this very day she still thanks me for insisting she take care of her hair at night!

Metal Free Elastics:  When all else fails, a big ole bun or ponytail will save the day.  Plus at night if you pull your hair to the top of your head, even if it is uncovered, it prevents all your hair from flowing about wildly throughout the night, encouraging dryness and tangles with every toss and turn!

Satin Rollers:  Now, I know you are thinking I’ve just gone off the deep end with this one.  You don’t want to wear a scarf but you’ll do rollers?  No, these are for the next morning!  If your hair has lost all resemblance of style throughout the night, reapply your moisturizer the next morning and tightly roll your hair with a few satin rollers as you shower, get dressed or even drive home.  The rollers are black so they aren’t overly obtrusive and when you take them down your hair should be formed into a few stylish curls.  Voilà, problem solved!

What do you think of my suggestions for your Booty Call Hair Survival Kit?

It’s okay…you can comment anonymously if you need to, but I know someone out there needed this! :-)

Ebony C. Princess About Ebony C. Princess

A self proclaimed hair enthusiast and healthy hair advocate, Ebony C, Princess is the chief editor of Longing 4 Length. She shares her personal journey towards growing long, healthy hair while providing hair care tips and information.

  • http://Www.youtube.com/DrMystique12 Carmelita

    Lol! OMG this post is so true and inspired by…..

    • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

      Hahahaha! Girl…see the above comments. Especially the one with the “BCP”….I died!

  • http://www.relaxedthairapy.com/ Divachyk // Relaxed Thairapy

    This is the cutest post. My mom acts like I’m a minor and I’ve been married for 16 yrs this year. I wore a scarf from day 1. My Dh has sisters so it never was an issue.

    • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

      WOW, 16 years? That’s awesome…I wanna be you when I grow up! lol

      • http://www.relaxedthairapy.com/ Divachyk // Relaxed Thairapy

        :-)

  • http://www.EatStylePlay.com/ Eat.Style.Play

    This is hilarious! But you need to be prepared that’s for sure! Espeically when you can’t twist up that hair.

    • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

      Thanks girl – and yes, the next morning its like Florida Evans “Dammm dammmm dammmmmm!”

  • http://www.curlsandmo.com/ Curls and Mo

    I’m mad at the Momma Shout Out. Really, Eb? Lol. Well, since your momma might read this I want to preface this by saying (Hi, Mrs. Princess and) if I had a friend who was struggling (not me of course) I would tell her another thing to pack in that bag is confidence. Joulezy said it best “men love what we love”. If we rock that satin bonnet with nothing but style and grace? Ma’am! They will be just fine. Lol. Love this, Eb!

    • S.O.S Hair

      I’m dying over here! Heeyyyy Mrs. Princess!

    • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

      LMBO! Listen…mama be errywhere. Even after I’m grown, I fully expect her to pop up! Guess that means she did her job right and (sometimes) stops me from doing wrong! hahahahaha! I love that quote…so true!

  • Lisa

    LOL!
    You need some passion, when there is passion enough, you dont think about moisturizers och saitin bonnets :) If you have been taking good care of your hair one tumbling night wont ruin your healthy hair. I’d braid it into two pigtail braids and then leave it at that.
    Sometimes you need to stay cool and that is not with a grannies bonnet. LOL
    Great post!

    • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

      One night no….a few….yes! And you are so right, I’ll do a Pippi Longstocking look in a heartbeat! LOL! Thanks for commenting girlie!

  • fujoshifanatic

    LOL! Fun post! Girl, all my friends know when I’m boo’d up, because that’s when I start using my big-ass BCP (booty call purse) as my main hand bag. I usually carry a little travel-size kit (filled with my staple shampoo,condish, leave-in, moisturizer and oil spritz), along with an extra pair of undies, disposable toothbrush, and a lightweight shirt (along with my regular purse stuff), in case an impromptu dinner date turns into something else. At least I want to try to look like I’m not doing the walk of shame, especially on a week night! :-P

    • http://belowthawaist.blogspot.jp/ Abbi N

      haha your BCP! dwl!!
      Fun post Ebony. The comments are hilarious!

    • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

      #iCANT! Too funny!!! But great tips! LOL!

  • http://naturallystellar.wordpress.com/ NaturallyStellar

    I love this post! I wore my scarves proudly while I was dating my hubby…I had to let him know “look, I need to be sure my hair stays right” and he was cool with it. Now I live with satin pillowcases because he said he likes seeing my hair. I think after 12 years of marriage, He’s a keeper.

    • http://www.curlsandmo.com/ Curls and Mo

      Wow! 12 years?!? That’s awesome.

      • http://www.curlsandmo.com/ Curls and Mo

        But, wait… (how old are you? you don’t have to answer…but I really wanna know. lol) #BlackDontCrack

        • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

          Right…I kinda was thinking the same thing tho! lol

    • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

      YES! And satin pillowcases are the best. I can’t do the full bed set because I’ll slip and slide everywhere but at least my hair stays (mostly) on the pillowcase!

  • S.O.S Hair

    I tried to be cute on our wedding night and go sans-scarf. My hubby was like—you forgot your scarf. It was true love! Hahahahaha!

    http://www.savingourstrands.com

    • http://www.curlsandmo.com/ Curls and Mo

      Now THAT’S a keeper. Even though you didn’t really have a choice at that point. Lol.

    • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

      GIRLLLLLLLLL, I concur! #TrueLoveatItsBest!

    • http://courtnea2001.blogspot.com/ Courtnea2001

      Definitely true love!

    • http://www.diaryofarelaxedchic.blogspot.co.uk/ Yvonne – Another relaxed chic

      Lol! True love indeed! What a relief though! lol

    • http://www.nailacollegedropout.com/ Briana NailACollegeDropOut

      That moment right there just proved he was the one! You know, if you had any doubts after the ceremony was over lol.

  • http://www.myhealthyhairdiary.blogspot.com/ Healthy Hair Diary

    Lol, this was a fun read. I’ll remember to pass this on, I have a few “friends” who need it lol

    • http://www.longing4length.com/ EbonyCPrincess

      Exactly, I’m here to help all the “friends”! LOL!!!

  • http://courtnea2001.blogspot.com/ Courtnea2001

    I totally enjoyed the comments just as much as the article! I about shouted when I saw the title. Great tips though….can’t sacrifice the health of our hair for loveeee lol!

  • NancyM

    Thanks for this funny and helpful post. I’ve been married going on 20 years and have had satin pillowcases and worn a scarf for most of that time. Believe me most men are not concerned with your hair if you’re spending the night. :) Go for it!

  • Cupid’s Planner

    lol I loved it. Hair scarf from day one. Do not put on airs, be who you are from day one.

  • http://www.diaryofarelaxedchic.blogspot.co.uk/ Yvonne – Another relaxed chic

    Lol The post and comments are hilarious! When I saw the
    title I thought this will be a good one! But you know it needs to be said! Hair
    has got damaged from such! When I started dating my boo I also tried to be
    cute, at first he was a bit what is all this…pre HHJ didn’t even have reason
    to, a scarf was something I wore to keep my style fresh had no clue about
    moisture and the rest, so did the silk pillow. He didn’t take long to warm up,
    and now its bonnet all the way, he started using one too to support me (didn’t
    last long after the afro was cut). Though I still feel weird with baggying and
    the sound of the bag as you move, hmmm…. the struggle is real!

  • Blutiful Blaq

    Great advice. I’m a huge fan of satin pillow cases. They allow your hair to be sexy with you hair out without the damage.