|Wet Hair in the Shower|
|New growth after rinsing conditioner out|
The last time I was doing my client’s hair (calling her that for lack of another fitting term) she was telling me how her 6 year old daughter, who is half-Black, half-Latina with 3b curly hair, remarked “Mommy when are you going to wear your hair flat again?” Now, my client hasn’t been relaxed since this little girl was about 3. And when you think about it the majority of women in this country do NOT have straight hair. If you add the natural Black women plus the Hispanic community and the Caucasian women with naturally curly hair….we outnumber the straight haired women. Yet, this little girl who is BARELY 6 years old identifies straight hair as being prettier or better somehow?! STILL? In 2011?! *le sigh* Although I’m relaxed, I see this as a problem. The fact that my client was so incredulous at my compliments on her hair is a problem. Little girls even TODAY feeling straight hair is prettier or better is a problem.
To be honest, I don’t think every Black woman should be or needs to be natural in order to change this view. I think the tide is changing and I love and support the “natural movement”, but I don’t like the elitist, exclusive, superior attitude that has developed among some naturals. I don’t think that is the answer either. Women who choose to relax shouldn’t be shamed by another Black woman who chooses not to relax. Its just that…a choice! At the same time, I don’t like the attitude some relaxed heads have developed where they feel the need to explain why they relax, why they “can’t” transition, and that their hair “needs” a perm. My girl moved to Houston and was saying they are having a natural hair show in a couple of months. I was like “OOOOH, I wanna go!” I would love to see all the different styles and get some great products really cheap! How does the product know my hair is processed? If its a gentle, sulfate-free shampoo, I can benefit. If its a moisturizing, natural ingredient conditioner, I can benefit. If its cute hair toys and accessories, I can benefit. And I’d rock a t-shirt with a woman and a big afro, despite being relaxed, because I’m proud of being BLACK. Period. But I can guarantee someone would take offense to me being there with my silky straight hair. Smh…that’s a problem too.
In any event…since I’m inadvertently stretching my relaxer, I’m seriously flirting with the idea of transitioning again. I never share this information via my YouTube because folk get downright angry when you change your mind back and forth a lot (as if its not your perogative….tell it Bobby! lol). But my blog is a different story….so ya’ll have the inside scoop on what’s going on in my head right now. I may transition, I may relax, I never know. If I do decide to transition…I probably won’t announce it as a transition. I’ll just continue to stretch my relaxer (and consider myself X amount of weeks post relaxer) until I become 100% natural, when and if that ever happens. Then again, I just saw a few relaxer updates that make me wanna schedule a touch up appointment for like yesterday! LOL. So we’ll see what happens. Just my thoughts…