Last weekend I had my naturally curly hair professionally straightened using the Beautiful Textures Texture Manageability System. The reaction from family, friends and even strangers has been…interesting. To say the least.
I’ve never lived for anyone else. Likewise I’ve never styled my hair for anyone else. But, from the reactions I’ve been receiving you would think I have. After seeing my hair straight for the first time a co-worker told me “You’re beautiful!” as if she was seeing me for the first time in almost two years. *side eye* For the next few days she tried to encourage me to get a Japanese hair straightening because “I have the perfect hair for it.” Huh??? *second side eye* A stranger of another ethnicity stopped me on the street minutes after leaving the salon to convey in his best attempt at English “you so sexy. You beautiful.” *third side eye* Over the past week or so I’ve experienced other forms of “admiration” and “compliments” and while sweet and enduring they’re starting to get on my last nerve.
For the longest time I wondered why other women would tell me “I can’t go natural like you” or “I wish I could go natural…” THIS IS WHY! I guess because I’ve been living in my natural hair bubble and I have such a take it or leave it attitude I never really grasped how the negative comments from others can really affect you. But, now being on the other side I can see why a woman who is already not the most confident might be hesitant.
If you check out my Instagram pictures you’ll see several pictures of my new straight ‘do. However, while most would take this time to brag that “they hair is laid hunty” my ONLY goal was and will remain to encourage other naturals to be good to their hair and it too will grow. I wanted to expose other naturals to another straightening alternative. Finally, I wanted to further highlight the beauty and versatility of natural hair.
A tiny part of me can’t wait to go back curly in hopes of quickly getting the focus back to the REAL issue at hand – how beautiful I am regardless of my hair. It saddens me that people I’ve known over a decade have commented “THIS is what I love…your kinks are cute too but…” WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?!? In my opinion it’s NOT a compliment – at all. It shows me how much work still needs to be done. Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, color and hair textures!