The other day my mother and I were talking and she proudly told me “My hair is fabulous! It’s so healthy, shiny and soft! Even your Aunt Teenie complimented me and I told her yes, its all because of my Ebbie!” Not to toot my own horn, but ’tis true – my mother never took excellent care of her hair partially because she didn’t believe it would make such a huge difference. Always keeping it done at the salon, she was guilty of applying heat repeatedly between visits, not always covering at night and getting her to moisturize daily was one of the hardest tasks ever! Plus, I encouraged (okay threatened) her to transition to natural because she suffered with extreme breakage and thinning. I told her “Look…you cannot continue to color your hair and relax, pick one!” Well my mom would rather die than walk around with gray hair so through wigs and braids she grew out her relaxer.
Getting my mom to moisturize AND seal daily just was not going to happen so I told her to try Jane Carter’s Nourish and Shine. This is a great butter based product that moisturizes adequately despite not being water based and does not require an oil to seal because of its ingredients (mostly butters and oils). That was key for my mom, she uses it every night and her hair is thriving.
Okay, so back to our conversation. Right after bragging about her hair:
Mommy says “I ran out of my Jane Carter though. What should I do?”
I responded: Get some more.
Mommy: Okay…but in the meantime what can I use?
Mommy: Can I just use coconut oil for now?
Me: No! Didn’t you just tell me how well the Jane Carter was working? What are you talking about?
Mommy (in an exasperated voice): Ebony. I don’t have any Nourish & Shine. Now tell me what I can put on my hair!
Me: Mommy, it’s 8 o’clock. Run to Target and get another jar.
Mommy: Look I am not going all the way to Target tonight! And I can’t go tomorrow either because I’ll be working in King of Prussia, so tell me out of all these hair products you have up in here, what can I use?
Me: Mom, what would you do if you ran out of soap?! I don’t understand why you are not accepting my answer. You ran out…get some more. They have Target, Vitamin Shoppe and Whole Foods in King of Prussia! It’s simple!
Mommy: I’m about to roll up my hair right now, I’m asking you what I can put on it to moisturize it this very second.
Me: If you ran out of soap this very second…what would you do?
Mommy: starts laughing. Okay Ebony, I get it!
Me: I mean I just don’t understand. You know what works for your hair, you saw the product getting low. I don’t understand how you ran completely out of a necessity! You don’t just run out of soap do you? Toothpaste? Deodorant? NO! When it is getting low, you make sure to replace it!
Mommy: Still laughing. I see, I should start to see this more seriously. Okay, I’ll be sure to get some!
I know my mother – her ‘in the meantime’ means about two weeks or until she begins to see visible breakage or dryness. I knew if I gave her an alternative she would have continued to put off picking up some more Jane Carter until whenever. Finally I did direct her to a stash of moisturizer I had under the vanity in my childhood bathroom after stressing that she absolutely MUST pick up the Jane Carter the very next day.
After all of that, I told her “Mom…you just inspired a blog post.” I mean I can understand running out of your favorite moisturizer because its too expensive, or because its only available through online ordering but in that case you should have a back up product. I’m not encouraging anyone to be a product junkie or hoarder but you just canNOT run completely out of moisturizer! Seriously to me running out of moisturizer is like running out of soap!